What Not to Say! How to Navigate Social Situations as a Vegan

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Hey there, vegan trailblazers and aspiring plant-powered superheroes! Let’s talk about the elephant in the room — or should we say, the tofu in the sandwich?

We’ve got your back with some savvy tips and witty comebacks to help you breeze through any social gathering with grace and confidence.

#1 Steer Clear of Identity Policing

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Veganism is about real community embracement, encouraging, and supporting one another. Avoid policing others’ identities or implying that they’re not “real” vegans if they don’t adhere to a strict set of dietary or lifestyle guidelines. 

Veganism is a personal journey, and individuals may define it differently based on their values, beliefs, and circumstances. When engaging with someone who practises veganism differently from you, maintain respect, understanding, and open-mindedness. 

  • Instead of saying: “I would never eat processed foods like that.”
  • Try saying: “It’s cool to see how diverse vegan diets can be. What’s your favourite thing to cook?”

#2 Avoid Defensive Responses

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As you embark on a vegan journey, not everyone will understand the path you choose. Prepare to encounter questions, concerns and curiosity from people around you.  Avoid becoming defensive or hostile when faced with criticism or questions about veganism.

Instead, remain calm, composed and open-minded. Be prepared to engage in constructive dialogue and address any concerns or misconceptions. This doesn’t mean you should tolerate ridicule and offensive jokes about your journey, however. This takes us to our next point.

#3 Don’t Minimise Others’ Concerns

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Avoid dismissing or belittling the concerns of non-vegans. While you may disagree with their perspectives, it’s important to listen respectfully and engage in constructive dialogue rather than shutting down their opinions or experiences.

  • Instead of saying: “Stop worrying so much about where your food comes from. Just eat it and enjoy it.”
  • Try saying: “It’s great that you’re thinking about the origins of your food. If you want to explore more ethical options, I’m happy to help.”

#4 Stop Making False Claims & Preaching

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Refrain from spreading misinformation or making false claims about veganism or animal agriculture. Stick to factual, evidence-based information and be honest about the limitations and complexities of the issues at hand.

Avoid the air of superiority – everyone has their beliefs and follows their diets of choice. Steer clear of being overly preachy or evangelical about veganism. It’s natural to feel passionate about your beliefs. 

But, bombarding others with information or trying to convert them against their will is unlikely to be effective and may even turn them off to the idea altogether.

  • Instead of saying: “I can’t believe you’re still eating animal products!”
  • Try saying: “I’ve found that a plant-based diet works well for me, but I understand that everyone has different priorities.”

#5 Don’t Guilt-Trip: Stop the Judgmental Statements 

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Avoid making judgmental comments about others’ dietary choices or lifestyle habits. Everyone has their journey, and criticising or shaming others for their choices is unlikely to promote understanding or respect.

While it’s important to raise awareness about the ethical, environmental, and health implications of animal agriculture, using guilt as a tactic will not help. It is unlikely to inspire lasting change and may create resentment instead.

Refrain from using overly extreme language or making sweeping generalisations about non-vegans. Phrases like “meat-eaters are murderers” or “dairy is poison” can come across as confrontational and may alienate others rather than foster meaningful dialogue.

  • Instead of saying: “Eating meat is wrong and unethical.”
  • Try saying: “I choose not to eat meat for ethical reasons, but I respect everyone’s dietary choices.”

#6 Learn to Navigate Common Questions

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Being a vegan in a world dominated by meat-centric culture can sometimes feel like stepping onto a culinary tightrope. Social situations often come with a side dish of awkward questions, curious glances, and well-meaning but sometimes misguided comments. 

Here are common questions you may encounter:

“But Where Do You Get Your Protein?”

The age-old protein question! It’s the first thing many people blurt out when they find out you’re vegan. Instead of launching into a lecture on the protein content of lentils and quinoa, keep it light-hearted. 

A simple “Don’t worry, I get plenty of protein from plants!” is usually enough to reassure them.

“I Could Never Give Up Cheese!”

Cheese is hands-down, the dairy dilemma of many would-be vegans. When faced with this comment, resist the urge to launch into a monologue about the horrors of the dairy industry. Instead, keep it light and breezy. 

A playful “I used to feel the same way until I discovered vegan cheese that tastes just as good!” is a great way to pique their curiosity without getting into a heated debate.

“But Bacon Though!”

Bacon — the meat lover’s trump card. Instead of grimacing in horror at the mention of bacon, try to find common ground.

A light-hearted “I used to love bacon too until I discovered the wonders of vegan bacon made from plants!” can help defuse any awkwardness and keep the conversation flowing.

“Isn’t Veganism Too Extreme?”

Ah, the “extreme” argument. Instead of getting defensive, try to find common ground. A simple “I understand where you’re coming from, but for me, veganism is about compassion and making choices that align with my values” can help bridge the gap and foster understanding.

“But What Do You Even Eat?”

Ah, the perennial question of puzzled omnivores everywhere. Instead of listing off your entire grocery list, try to keep it light and breezy. A playful “Oh, you’d be surprised at the delicious vegan options out there! 

Let me whip up something for you sometime” can help ease any concerns and open up a dialogue about vegan cuisine.

Conflict-Free Communication as a Vegan

And there you have it — some savvy tips and witty comebacks to help you navigate any social situation with ease and confidence. Whether you’re fielding questions about protein, bacon, or cheese, remember to keep it light, playful, and above all, compassionate. 

By approaching social interactions with grace, humour, and a touch of vegan charm, you’ll not only defuse any awkwardness but also plant the seeds of curiosity and compassion in the hearts of those around you. 



6 thoughts on “What Not to Say! How to Navigate Social Situations as a Vegan”

  1. Loving the part about steering clear of identity policing! It’s so important to remember we’re all on our own journey. Let’s support each other rather than gatekeeping who’s more ‘vegan’ than whom.

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  2. Regarding the section on navigating common questions, how do you propose we answer without coming across as preachy? It’s a thin line between informing and offending, in my experience.

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  3. The section on conflict-free communication is essential reading. Communicating our choices with respect and understanding goes a long way in fostering positive discussions about veganism.

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